James Wood Teachings

It’s helpful to treat intimate relationships as spiritual practice. It’s horrifying to see what we do to ourselves, but essential. There’s nothing like an intimate personal relationship to trigger unconscious reactions. Whatever upsets you, it’s really about you. It’s what you’re doing to yourself and blaming on someone else. It’s what you’re not seeing in yourself and unconscious, so you have to see it outside somewhere. We’re trying to heal the wounds we received as a child, the love we perceived as not getting from our parents. So we meet someone we can work that out with.

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